Nygel and i got married June 11, 2011 in Key West (yay us!) and it was the best week of my life. A huge part of why it was so great was thanks in large part to Ray and Eileen at Weddings to Go Key West. Ray and Eileen offer wedding package deals and take care of as little or much as you need. No they are not paying me to write this, in fact they don't even know (but i probably will send a link in self serving hope that they will post it on their page and publicize my page!!). What made Ray and Eileen so great though was how they worked with us. Typically they perform weddings on the beach (it's free) but as you may have imagined Nygel can't get out on the beach in his wheelchair. I had only been to Key West once before our wedding and was only there for 3 days on that first trip so i really knew nothing about the area (yet decided to plan a wedding there?). When we realized the beach was not an option and couldn't find anywhere else, i called Ray and asked for help. Ray brainstormed all kinds of ideas with me. He carefully listened to Nygel's physical abilities and limitations and then came up with several options that we could explore and he felt would fit our needs and also make for the intimate setting we wanted. Ultimately we settled on the Key West Garden Club (which is fully wheelchair accessible and ammmmmazing). Ray and Eileen were available instantly for every question and emotional flare up that took place. Eileen made a personalized ceremony and they both were patient and professional throughout. Ray's photography was beautiful and he was great to work with. I want to promote Weddings to Go Key West because of the impeccable service they provided us and also because of the way that they took our special needs in stride. If you are planning a wedding or vow renewal consider Key West and then call Weddings to Go Key West. http://www.weddingstogokeywest.com/
People always ask me if i knew Nygel was disabled when we met, which i find to be a curious question. I guess that people are trying to figure out if he got in some horrible accident or massive disease progression and i just stuck it out with him because i already loved him, or if i actually thought 'yeah sure i'll go on a date with the dude in the wheelchair'. The answer is yes i did know, if you were wondering, and the whole experience of being in a relationship with someone with physical limitations has really been a mind-soul-heart expanding experience. I'm no saint though, truth be told i tried to break it off with Nygel. After a few really great dates the reality of life (and that fact that i was developing feelings) hit me and suddenly the prospect of dealing with my own health issues and his physical limitations became so overwhelming that the sheer thought of doing his laundry put me over the limit and sent me freaking out that it would never work! Thankfully, Nygel is the equivalent of a high stakes hostage negotiator who helped me remember to breathe and to agree to at least give it a chance.
Almost 2 years later we are married and i know i am the luckiest girl around. It's still interesting though to see how people respond to our situation. On Halloween someone referred to Nygel as my brother, 'or my husband' i corrected him as he stared at me drunk or confused-- i'm really not sure. A boss of mine said "ohhhhhh that's so nice you like help him and take care of him and stuff" (maybe she was confused and thought i was his nurse not his girlfriend?). And my personal faviorte is a girlfriend who's only question was "does his dick work?", 'yes', "oh ok, well that's cool then, as long as you're happy". Thankfully, not everyone is a moron and some people can see past the wheel chair to the person and the realtionship. I hope that this site will serve as a way for me to meet more open minded and open hearted people and to keep on getting out and about to experience all that we can.
Nygel and i got married June 11, 2011 in Key West (yay us!) and it was the best week of my life. A huge part of why it was so great was thanks in large part to Ray and Eileen at Weddings to Go Key West. Ray and Eileen offer wedding package deals and take care of as little or much as you need. No they are not paying me to write this, in fact they don't even know (but i probably will send a link in self serving hope that they will post it on their page and publicize my page!!). What made Ray and Eileen so great though was how they worked with us. Typically they perform weddings on the beach (it's free) but as you may have imagined Nygel can't get out on the beach in his wheelchair. I had only been to Key West once before our wedding and was only there for 3 days on that first trip so i really knew nothing about the area (yet decided to plan a wedding there?). When we realized the beach was not an option and couldn't find anywhere else, i called Ray and asked for help. Ray brainstormed all kinds of ideas with me. He carefully listened to Nygel's physical abilities and limitations and then came up with several options that we could explore and he felt would fit our needs and also make for the intimate setting we wanted. Ultimately we settled on the Key West Garden Club (which is fully wheelchair accessible and ammmmmazing). Ray and Eileen were available instantly for every question and emotional flare up that took place. Eileen made a personalized ceremony and they both were patient and professional throughout. Ray's photography was beautiful and he was great to work with. I want to promote Weddings to Go Key West because of the impeccable service they provided us and also because of the way that they took our special needs in stride. If you are planning a wedding or vow renewal consider Key West and then call Weddings to Go Key West. http://www.weddingstogokeywest.com/ 
